Wednesday, May 19, 2010

POLES APART........YET TOGETHER

Today is one of those days when I am truly wondering. Why did God make Husbands? Much as I love, respect Joe, there are days like today that I encounter and ponder on the same question…. From Newly weds we have become Old weds, galloped, walked, trudged 32 years together, yet am astounded by the number of times I have felt Oddly wed.

Do we really suit each other I ask Joe...and he says…Yes, actually more, if you had been the Neighbors wife...And I really do feel that I should seriously live next door.

Sometimes, I wish that he dance to my tune, than I to His….and then I realize we end up dancing to the duets we create.

We have an argument, and he says lets not go to bed, being mad at each other…and I want to retort back..... Yes, Joe I would love to stay awake and fight and resolve issues, but then I sleep off…over the issue as well.

I say Joe, you never listen to me. And he replies of course I do, how else I would reply to this…… [Sigh]

Joe you do not understand me, I say……and he says, No, I do, that’s why I am going for a walk.

Joe how can you always forget such small things…and Poonam how can you remember such small things and get mad… [I am stumped]

I say Joe, will you ever give me a surprise….and he says.... I am surprised, knowing me you still are looking for surprises….

Poonam what do you understand about money or finances…..how to spend it Joe, I say…..

I was looking for you, he says and I say Look after me, but please do not look for me, when I am gossiping with friends over the phone…. [Always falls on deaf ears.]

And so the journey together continues........
Me looking for him to change, and he wondering why did I change.
Sometimes I wish he would talk, and sometimes I am glad he is silent...
He looks at the world with eyes wide open and me with eyes half shut,
He leaves the windows open when goes to sleep, and I draw the curtains,
He looks at the big picture, and I look at the little things…..

Two sides of the coin we are, thankfully the same...

6 comments:

Piper .. said...

beautiful!!!! Mam, I`m going to forward this to The G. I sit here astounded at the similarities I find! :):) The G and I are two different sides of the coin too - the same one, thank god(like you say!).

J P Joshi said...

Good one, Poonam. Here are some excerpts from "Why men don't listen & Women can't read maps".

- "When a woman is speaking her unused words (she's got to communicate 20000 words every day) at the end of the day, she doesn't want interruptions with SOLUTIONS to her problems". I somehow have never understood this, up until now.

- "Talking about her problems is how a woman gets relief from stress. But she wants to be heard, not fixed".

- "Most men get brain haemorrhage after 20 minutes of shopping".

- Cell phone is used for communicating by men and for bonding by women. So true!!

Renu said...

very nice post and I think most of the wives can empathise.

I loved that//look after me, not for me:)

I dont even know whether we are different side or different coin:)..its too late to think about that:):)...we are joined together now thats what is important to me.

limenlemons said...

well written post.....im sure most married people will identify with it.

as exasperating as ur partner can be, as frustrating and surprising....sometimes end of the day u still feel glad they are who they are.

How do we know said...

Congratulations!!!!

Indyeah said...

I say Joe, you never listen to me. And he replies of course I do, how else I would reply to this…… [Sigh]
LOL!!! This is super cute:)))

Poonam what do you understand about money or finances…..how to spend it Joe, I say…..

Now THAT is a smart reply ;)


Sometimes, I wish that he dance to my tune, than I to His….and then I realize we end up dancing to the duets we create.

This right here is the essence of companionship isnt it?:)


JP Sir has given all the *ahem* relevant points :D
ROFL! @brain haemorrhage after 20 minutes of shopping". :D :D

Much love and ((((((hugs))to you Poonam:)